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We offer mediation services for divorce and other separations to assist couples to plan, negotiate, and file their divorce in an amicable and respectful way, saving time and money, and avoiding the painful and destructive adversarial process. We also offer marital mediation for those who seek options other than counseling and divorce. Call us today at 303-526-7749 or visit our website to get started.

Sunday, April 3, 2011

A little something to know about your divorce.

Its not every day that you get a divorce so here is a little that I have found to be common to most divorces that you may want to know. When you begin your divorce with your first papers in court in Colorado, a restraining order comes into effect over both of you, automatically. Among other things it prohibits you from "transferring, encumbering, concealing, or in any way disposing of . . . any marital property . . . ." unless you have the consent of the other party, or a court order. That means you can't put your house on the market, buy a new car, or pull money out of savings to pay off a loan or credit card, unless you both agree, or you obtain a court order to permit the transaction. 

If you do your divorce together, step by step, especially in mediation, you have the freedom do any of these things whenever you agree to. You can decide your own timing, and keep it peaceful, sensible, and practical. In the adversarial process attorneys often advise their clients not to speak to each other, thus allowing the hold on marital property to remain in place until a very expensive hearing, or until the divorce is completed, which can be months. 

When you transition from married to single, from together to separate, in a cooperative and respectful way, you are both better off going forward into your next chapters having minimized the pain as well as the cost. Your children are better off too as they see you treat each other with respect through what they know is a difficult time. 

Call today if you'd like some help putting your transition together sensibly and cost-effectively,  303-526-7749, or visit our website at www.friendlydivorce.com.